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                                             September 2, 2009
                                             November  5, 2009

                                       BETH_LISICK
"Helping me Help Myself"
Beth Lisick

An overview of self-help movements of various sorts,
discussing a year that she spent investigating them.

   Interesting, funny,
   possibly even useful
   (my ambition is to be a        From my point of view it
   cult-leader some day).         suffers a little from too
                                  broad a focus.  The
                                  Richard Simmons stuff is
                                  amusing, but not the kind
                                  of cult I'm interested in
                                  designing.

                                     On the other hand, the recurring
                                     motifs in all of them are
                                     good to know about:

                                     The cult leader invariably
                                     proclaims "I was a failure
                                     before I discovered -- " the
                                     doctrine they are about to share
                                     with their good friends who
                                     ponied up the speakers fee.

                                         (I wonder if you might be
                                         able to drive this from even
                                         earlier in the process: you
                                         should help make me a
                                         success, because that will
                                         validate the work you've put
                                         into my cult.)



     A touch of sadness here and there:
     Beth Lisick's humor runs along the
     lines of trying to get you to            Lisick is not alone here:
     laugh at her tales of humilating         this may be the central
     experiences.   Sometimes this comes      motif of post-90s hipster
     of as less funny than pathetic...        writing...

                                                Under no circumstances
                                                are you to come off
                                                as pretentious; "look at
                                                how lame I am!" is always
                                                allowed.

                                                           STAGGERING


                       There's something a little
                       disconcerting to me in her
                       intellectual adventures,
                       and I think it's that we
                       are both like and unlike.


                                                             BETH_LISICK
    There's a tribe we might call
    "hipster", and Beth Lisick
    and I are both members of it:
    She's compulsively skeptical,        But there are a number of
    cynical, and yet she's willing       tribes I have a foot in
    to admit that these different        that Lisick knows not of:
    self-help movements may have         programmers/scientists/
    something going for them.            science fiction fans...

    The reasoning is the same                  Freaks vs. Geeks?
    for both of us:
                                             I think that there's some
        Showing that something               philosophical hollowness
        is dorky and uncool is               that she's trying to fill
        not the same thing as                with this quest, but for me
        disproving it.                       much of it is filled with
                                             other things, which I will
        At some point, just                  flatter myself by calling a
        dismissing things with               deeper understanding of the
        an eyeroll begins to                 world.
        seem like just a teenage
        defense mechanism.                   Beth Lisick is by no means
                                             a fool, but she often seems
        The truth, or a hint of              insufficently skeptical of
        something like the                   some of the worlds she
        truth, may be found in               cruises through...
        many quarters...
                                                 At a psychic's demo, she
           A technique of                        insists that if the guy
           reverse-snobbery; look                was using a shill, she
           to the uncool as well                 would've spotted it.
           as the cool; overcome
           your revulsion of the              That's a really dangerous
           positive thinkers and              attitude to take: you're
           see if there's                     up against people who are
           something there you can            pros at a certain kind of
           salvage, and thereby               deception.  If you're an
           demonstrate how                    untrained amateur, it's
           radically open-minded              grossly naive to think
           you can be for                     you can see through every
           condescending to grant             veil.
           some small degree of
           acceptance to members                 There are some classic
           of other tribes.                      examples of smart people
                                                 taken in by charlatans,
               SUPERIOR_MAN                      like the scientists who
                                                 were fooled by Uri
                                                 Geller, until James
                                                 Randi showed them how
                                                 it's done.

                                                         But then, my own
        "Even though my biggest fear is being            conviction that I
        one of those newfangled parents who              possess a "deeper
        overthink everything, I also                     understanding" can
        understand that it is ridiculous to              itself be dangerous.
        concern myself with becoming 'one of             I know the answers--
        those people.'  It reminds me of some            or rather I know
        of my alcoholic friends who couldn't             more of them
        face AA, even after years of unsavory            than you do--
        blackout drinking, for fear of being             so why should I
        'one of those recovery people.'  At              listen to your advice?
        some point, you need to get over it
        and get some freaking help."

                --Beth Lisick,
                  "Helping Me Help Myself" (2009)
                  p 162








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